Whilst I love living here, even after eight year years, we are still 'newcomers' to those who have lived here all their lives. This has been brought home to me by my friendship with Kay, who has only lived here for the last couple of years. We have both noticed when we go to meetings, even our bible study group, people chat and appear friendly, but it doesn't spill over into our everday lives.
My hubby and I have some friends who call in and phone, as we call in and phone them, and have them over for meals, but these friends are among other comparitive newcomers to the area. I am not complaining, we do have full lives with our entertaining for Aged Care and our interests, but it is so much more difficult for those living alone.
Today we were going out for lunch for Hubby's birthday, and Kay asked if she could join us, and I gladly said yes, though it was a bit of a surprise, then when we were seated, three other friends came in and they were thrilled to join us, Ellen and her severely mentally challenged son, and Betty from my walking group. They were so grateful, saying we made their day etc..... and this is so sad among Christians, people faithfully attending church services every week. Why are people so lonely when we are acquainted with so many from church congregations and community activities we all attend.
It is an old cliche that one can be lonely in a crowd, it brings home that everyone else appears to be confident with lots of friends and we are missing out.
Are we "loving our neighbours" if people at Church and in groups feel so lonely and alone? I must admit we are contented at home, and it is hard get motivated to make the effort to contact and visit others.
We have to reach out more this year, and our lives will be the richer for it.
Linking with Chalotte at Spiritual Sundays
With Peace and Joy,
Jan
